Tuesday, March 1, 2016

For those of you who don't know, FOMO basically means fear of missing out.
I don't mean it in a way that I'm missing out on what the world has to offer. But the fear of missing out on being with my family and making memories. I really really want to go off to a University but the fear of missing out is what keeps me from going through with it.

I never used to feel ready to leave but part of me feels ready now. Though like I said, the fear of missing out on spending quality time with my family scares me. I'm scared that I'll miss all these opportunities to laugh and be happy with them. I don't mean to sound like a downer and just saying this kills me, but no one is around forever. And that is why I can't get myself to leave. I don't want to leave and miss out on the only time I have left with my family. But I also do want to go out and see what's outside of my home town. I want to experience being on my own and meet new people and just grow as a person through the experiences I'll encounter. But how will I do that if I can't get myself to walk outside of my comfort zone?

So today I ask you for help. How do you deal with 'missing out'? How do you gain the strength to leave the comfort of your own home? 

Crystal ♥


  1. Omg, I feel ya, girl!! I've always lived at home my whole life but that idea of FOMO has been alllllways been with me when I think of moving out. Even on the weekends when we go up to the Lake Shore house now, there's a part of me that feels guilty for leaving, or a fear I'm gonna miss something: like my dad doing something funny, or a relative popping in to say hi and I'm there to see them.
    Since I don't have experience moving out from my home, I can't really give the best advice :( (I'm sure someone on here will though!) I honestly think it's going to be one of those things you just have to do, and take with a bit of a plunge however difficult it may be in the beginning. I'm pretty positive, things get better and easier over time...and as long as you maintain contact with your family and make the time to organize get-togethers with them or pop in for Sunday dinner, it makes it easier to adjust and grow from it. I'm so glad you wrote about this...most people I know, are always more than thrilled to move out and be away from their family, but it's something I've always kinda feared for reasons you mentioned. I'm gonna come back and read what the comments will say from more experienced people :)

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  2. I can totally relate. I had the choice of either moving to a new place to go to university next semester or stay at home , driving to college an hour away twice a week. I chose the later. I like that I won't miss out on family time but at the same time I wish I had chosen the first option. It would be a new experience, living somewhere bigger than the small town I've know since birth, living independently(or with a roommate) and being able to experience college events that community college doesn't offer much of. I also don't want to miss out on the steady job I have, taking piano lessons from the sweet lady I've been going to for years and watching my nephews grow up.
    I think at times in your life you will have to let go and miss out on somethings in order to not miss out on incredible opportunities. the universe / God ( which ever you believe in) has it's timing for things to happen, you just have to pay attention. You just have to be able to jump for those opportunities when they present themselves.
    I'm sure your family will be there waiting for you with open arms when you come back for a break. There are always ways to keep in touch(phone calls, skype, email, etc.) with them to help you stay in the loop so you don't miss out on as much. Overall,do what is right for you, even if it means stepping out of that comfort zone a little at a time. Keep moving forward. :)

  3. Do you happen to have a school you can go to that's outside your town but still relatively close? I have to say I was such a shy awkward person and probably could have stayed hidden in my parents house for life! I ended up going to a school about an hour away and living on campus and that changed my life. I was able to still see my family every weekend (that was important as well to me because we are very close!) but still get the experience I needed! I know you will do what is best for you and it will all work out, try not to stress about it! XO -Kim

  4. Aww Honey I completely understand , It's so difficult to bring yourself to experience something new when it means you could miss more of something you already love , I find it really helps me to remember that i'm going to miss out on so much more if i don't go out and have new experiences and make new friends and then when I'm home i'll be able to tell my family all about what ive done :)

    lots of love, Marianne xxx


  5. I have felt like that at times but I find the more I do things and socialise it goes away, I'm trying to get out so much more at the moment.

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  6. I was kind on the opposite end I couldn't wait to leave home however the condition I made with my parents since I was only 7 months into recovery was that I wouldn't move too far away. So my hometown is only about 1 1/2 hours away from where I am so it is very easy for me to go back home or for them to come visit which is always nice.

    I think there comes a point in order to grow there are certain things that have to change which is really hard to accept but there is always things like Skype and phones (gosh my Mum and I in the last year have been on the phone for about an hour a few times a week lol).

    I think having something set up in terms of regular contact and some planned visits always helps to know you are still having family time. I think if anything for me it grew the strength of my relationship with my parents and I think a lot of people find their parents become more like friends after they leave home.

    I don't go back home that much at all now because it can trigger things which I feel bad about at times because like you I think about how anything can happen at anytime to anyone but at least with regular contact through phones we're still in contact sharing laughs and memories but just in a different way.

    My parents were talking to me about when they left home and my Dad said he basically left for 5 years and I don't think he saw his parents very much at all in that time. He just needed to go off and do his own thing for awhile and then when he felt it was right for him he visited them more. My Mum has always stayed in the same town so that made it easier she could always go visit her parents when she wanted to. So I would also ask your parents what moving out of home was like for them.

    I would suggest sitting down and writing down a bit of a plan and see how that makes you feel and go from there. xoxo <3


  7. I'm so glad I came across your blog. I have been exactly where you are. I spent my first two years of college going to a branch of a main university because I was afraid to leave my family, but let me tell you something: when I finally made that decision? It was the best thing I ever could have done for myself.

    The truth is, yes, you'll miss out on some things here and there. BUT. You'll also get to experience new and exciting things that you otherwise never would have been able to. Family will always be there for you. Whether it's physically or mentally, they're always with you.

    Go after what you want. You seem like a very intelligent girl with an entire world at her finger tips. All you have to do is be brave enough to reach for it! :-)